K4K Best practices

"Let people know their voice is valued and we want to hear from them. It's a partnership and their voices matter.”

We will lead with aloha, always.
We will welcome all participants with warmth and mutual respect. This includes children. We will acknowledge each other's experiences, expertise, and will be reciprocal in how we interact with each other.

"We aren't at a conference, or in a corporate meeting. Can we speak openly? Can we be kind?"

We will be pono and respectfully communicate.
We will have open conversation without judgment, interruptions, or disrespectful behavior. Our facial expressions and body language will show openness and acceptance. We will ask others if they are open to feedback before commenting.

"We need to ease into the space. We don't know all the faces yet. Once we do, safety can be built."

We will help create a safe and brave space.
We will do this by building trust over time and being authentically transparent. We will help participants feel safe to express themselves without fear or shame. We will use calm tones of voice and facial expressions.

"Not everyone has the luxury and flexibility to choose their own schedules. Please be mindful of this when scheduling meetings."

We will be flexible and adaptable.
We will consider the diverse needs of our participants and make scheduling considerations for our family leaders. We will provide different options for participation in the work, including meetings, one-to-ones, surveys, and more.

"Check your 'ano before coming into the space. If you are not doing this for the right intention, I don't want to participate. I want to see real change in systems.

We will prepare for meetings by self-reflecting beforehand. We will know our purpose for joining the meeting, and ground conversations, and help us remain pono in our approach.

"Take a breath, reset, gather yourself, and come back. We still have work to do.”

We will work to address and resolve any conflict immediately.
We will hold ourselves and each other accountable for upholding the agreed-upon relational agreements. Direct feedback and peer support from others will be used to address any conflicts. If needed, we will take a break to allow time to gather ourselves again for the work ahead.

"I must be here to speak up."

We will embrace different voices and perspectives.
Every participant should be valued and heard from. We will recognize when we are showing bias, and work to ensure that we are including and welcoming the voices that need to be in the room the most.